I don’t know about you, but I’m a very sensitive person. If I get insulted or ignored, it really does hurt my feelings and I can get quite upset about it. But what I’ve realised is that there is no point focusing on things that upset you. If anything, it will just make you feel unhappy in general, and that’s just not healthy.
No one deserves to be unhappy and angry. So rather than getting stuck thinking about that time someone didn’t like what you did, or when someone laughed at you and made you feel embarrassed, why not toss those feelings aside and move on from it straight away? Easier said than done, I know. If you’re anything like me, you’ll take things people do and what they say about you really personally. But it’s important to keep in mind that sometimes you may be overreacting, or sometimes (most of the time) it’s simply not worth thinking about.
So what can you do to help fight these feelings? Here are some tips:
Believe in yourself
Most of the time you’ll likely get upset about something someone said because you partly agree with it. You need to realise that you’re an amazing person who doesn’t deserve such comments. Try focusing on the things you love about yourself, and accept that no one is perfect. It’s okay to have flaws, and it doesn’t make you any less of a great person. If you do feel particularly bad about a certain aspect of yourself, do your best to improve it, but also realise that some things don’t need fixing.
Take a deep breath
Will what happened matter tomorrow, or the day after? 99% of the time, the answer is no. Take a deep breath, remember all the great things in life and move on.
Don’t sink to their level
It can be really tempting to say something hurtful back when you receive a negative comment from someone, but the truth is, it’s not worth it. Rather than trying to get revenge, move on and be the better person.
Avoid people that bring you down
Some people might not be trying to intentionally hurt you, but if you’ve confronted them about things they do that you don’t appreciate and they keep doing those things, it may be time to realise that they shouldn’t be in your life. Sounds harsh, I know, but there is no point surrounding yourself with people that make you feel bad.
Realise when you’re overreacting
Sometimes people may say negative things about you to be funny, but you might struggle to find the fun part and instead take it as an insult. It’s important to realise that you might sometimes get upset over nothing. If you really didn’t find it funny, but you know that the person didn’t mean any harm, let them know that you understand it was a joke, but that you didn’t appreciate the comment. If they’re a good friend, they’ll understand.
When you feel that the anger is about to surface, distract yourself with something you love doing. If you need to be alone, take some time for yourself. If you need other people to distract you, hit up a friend and do something fun.
I’m not actually feeling angry at the moment. You’d probably assume that this post was written because of a recent experience, but that isn’t the case. In saying that, I’ve definitely been carrying around a lot of anger for a large part of my life, and I felt I wanted to share some advice around how to deal with it, in case there are others out there who need a bit of guidance.
Anger can consume you – don’t let it!