I often answer questions about myself, but they’re usually simple ones that I don’t have to think too hard about. This time I thought I’d answer some questions on a deeper level. Questions that really make you think. I got the idea from Morgan who writes The Rose Quartz. Here goes.
1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
That’s a really difficult question. I suppose it depends on the day, but if it was today, I’d probably say 30-ish. Which is pretty much what I am.
2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?
Again, this depends on the situation. If it’s something you really want to do, then never trying would be worse. But if it’s something you’re being talked into when you don’t really want to do it, then failing would be much worse.
3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?
Because we want to fit in. We think way too much about what others think of us. We need to focus more on our own happiness and do the things that we really want to do, not the things that we’re expected to do.
4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
Very likely. I don’t often chase my dreams, but I may talk about them. Sometimes I talk myself out of doing the things I really want to do. Confidence has a lot to do with it. I’ll say that I want to do something, but when I actually sit down and think about it, I realise that I wouldn’t dare do it.
5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?
I would remove judgement. If we could all just accept each other for who we are, the world would be a better place. To me, it doesn’t matter what race you are, your sexuality or your religion etc. Believe in what you want, and allow others to choose their own path.
6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?
Blogging. I love it, but unfortunately it doesn’t pay the bills at this stage. If happiness was all the payment you needed, then I’d be doing just fine!
7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?
A little bit of both at the moment, but mostly settling. It’s not really because anything is holding me back, other than myself. I just don’t believe in what I want to do enough to take the leap and just do it. I’m working on that.
8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?
Wow, that would be absolutely terrible. I would have started a family much younger, because family is super important to me. I also wouldn’t have stayed in some jobs for as long as I have. Life would definitely be too short to be unhappy for long.
9. To what degree have you actually controlled the course your life has taken?
Quite a bit. I moved from Sweden to New Zealand when I was 20 and I’ve made most of my own decisions since then. To me it’s not super important to have total control over my life though. Help and guidance is something that I value and without it, you’d be missing out on the knowledge and experience of others.
10. Are you more worried about doing things right, or doing the right things?
Doing things right. I’m a bit of a perfectionist, so I really don’t like doing something if it’s not done properly. We all do the wrong things from time to time, and I think that’s good, because you can learn from it and move on. I suppose the same could apply to doing things the wrong way, but that still worries me a lot more.
11. You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified. What do you do?
Speak up for them. I absolutely can’t stand when people judge others, unless they’ve done something terrible. I’ve actually been in this situation quite a few times. Well, maybe not the exact situation, but I’ve had people start talking crap about someone I’ve invited as soon as they’ve left. It’s just so disrespectful and rude. I’m not willing to be talked into feeling a certain way about someone. Until they’ve done something terrible to me, I’ll have my own opinion about them.
12. If you could offer a newborn child only one piece of advice, what would it be?
Always be yourself, and encourage others to do the same.
13. Would you break the law to save a loved one?
If it was a life and death situation, absolutely. No doubt about it.
14. Have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity?
Not that I can think of. I usually see the creative side of things.
15. What’s something you know you do differently than most people?
To be honest, I can’t really think of anything. As much as I’d love to be different, I think I do things similar to others. I also can’t really know how everyone else does things, so it’s not easy to know if I’m different or not.
16. How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
I think it has a lot to do with the way you were raised, or what was surrounding you as a child. I have my brother to thank for my music taste, my mum to thank for loving cuddles, my dad to thank for my humour. I think you pick up on things when you’re little that seem to stick later on in life. That’s just my theory.
17. What one thing have you not done that you really want to do? What’s holding you back?
Traveled to the US. It’s something I’ve been wanting to do ever since I was a teenager, but so far it just hasn’t happened. I’ve spent money on other things, and when we do travel, we usually travel to either Europe or Asia. I definitely will have to go to the states soon. Although, if Trump becomes president, I may have to re-think that.
18. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?
Always. I can’t let go of some things no matter how hard I try. I won’t go into detail or it’ll get a bit too personal.
19. If you had to move to a state or country besides the one you currently live in, where would you move and why?
Sweden. That’s where I’m from. I currently live in New Zealand and have been living here for the last 8 years. I’m currently planning on moving back to Sweden at the end of the year. But if I had to pick a place that wasn’t either of those two countries, I’d probably pick somewhere like Canada.
20. Do you push the elevator button more than once? Do you really believe it makes the elevator faster?
I don’t. I do press the button at pedestrian crossing more than once quite often. Not because I think it’ll go any faster, it’s just one of those things. Pressing it once just doesn’t seem enough.
21. Would you rather be a worried genius or a joyful simpleton?
Joyful simpleton. Knowledge is great, but happiness is more important.
22. Why are you, you?
Because of the influence of all the people in my life. I believe we shape each other as much as we shape ourselves. That’s why it’s so important to be kind to people. You get what you give, and you give what you get.
23. Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?
Not really. I’m a bit too lazy to keep up friendships unfortunately, which is really sad. I tried quite hard as a teenager, but found that I was always the one suggesting to do something. Actually, that’s been the case a lot of the time even as an adult. I definitely think that I’m caring enough for people to trust me though, which I think is really important in a friend.
24. Which is worse, when a good friend moves away, or losing touch with a good friend who lives right near you?
Losing touch with someone who lives close to you, because that means that you’ve grown apart for other reasons, and that kind of hurts.
25. What are you most grateful for?
My family, and my fiance. They mean everything to me. I admire them and love them to bits. I couldn’t have asked for a better family.
26. Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
Wow, that’s an interesting one. As much as my past is important to me, I’d probably have to pick losing my old memories. Only because I wouldn’t want to go through the rest of my life feeling like I’m stuck in the past.
27. Is it possible to know the truth without challenging it first?
It’s definitely possible, but should never be assumed.
28. Has your greatest fear ever come true?
No, it hasn’t.
29. Do you remember that time 5 years ago when you were extremely upset? Does it really matter now?
It does, because it helped shape who I am and how I’ve acted since. We learn from everything, especially our bad or sad experiences.
30. What is your happiest childhood memory? What makes it so special?
My happiest childhood memory would be when my mum, dad, my brother and I went on a campervan trip to Norway. It’s super special to me because not only was it my first time out of the country, it was also one of the only trips I remember us going on together. My parents separated when I was around 4-5 years old, and we went on this trip when I was 12. The fact that we could reunite to go on the trip will be forever special to me.
31. At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
When Jeremy and I went to Queenstown last year. It was an amazing trip, We got engaged and I overcame one of my biggest fears when we went paragliding. Just ask the guy who did the paraglide with me – I wept like a child beforehand, but while up there it was absolutely incredible and I forgot all about being scared and just took it all in.
32. If not now, then when?
Later. I don’t like specifying when because then I feel like a failure if I don’t get it done that time!
33. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?
Confidence. I would hate to lose the confidence I’ve slowly built up over the last few years.
34. Have you ever been with someone, said nothing, and walked away feeling like you just had the best conversation ever?
Kind of. Jeremy and I often just sit in the same room. We might even be doing different things, but it feels so much better when he’s around. I guess I wouldn’t feel like it was a great conversation as such, but I feel it’s time that I wouldn’t have spent differently.
35. Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?
It’s not religion that cause wars, it’s people. Blaming it on religion is just the easy way out, rather than dealing with the fact that there are evil people out there.
36. Is it possible to know, without a doubt, what is good and what is evil?
Absolutely not, just as it can often be hard to tell the difference between what’s right and what’s wrong.
37. If you just won a million pounds, would you quit your job?
I probably would. Not because I don’t like my job, but I would love to start a family, and if I had that much money, I would be able to spend so much more time with the family. I’d probably go back to work after a while though, because I have a feeling I’d get a bit bored after a while. Perhaps I would invest more in my blog and make it my job!
38. Would you rather have less work to do, or more work you actually enjoy doing?
More work that I enjoy doing for sure. If you enjoy doing something, it doesn’t feel like work. Working with something that you don’t enjoy can be really draining, even if it’s for a shorter time, and that’s really unhealthy.
39. Do you feel like you’ve lived this day a hundred times before?
A little bit, but not in a bad way. I quite enjoy my life at the moment, so reliving the same day isn’t such a bad thing.
40. When was the last time you marched into the dark with only the soft glow of an idea you strongly believed in?
Never. I’m not very keen on taking risks, so I won’t do something until I’m sure it’ll either work out, or I won’t be too upset if it doesn’t. Watch Full Movie Online Streaming Online and Download
41. If you knew that everyone you know was going to die tomorrow, who would you visit today?
That would be absolutely terrible, because I wouldn’t be able to travel home to see my family. It takes more than a day to fly from New Zealand to Sweden. So I would spend the whole day with Jeremy and Skype everyone at home in Sweden.
42. Would you be willing to reduce your life expectancy by 10 years to become extremely attractive or famous?
Absolutely not. Life is too short already, so taking 10 years off would be ridiculous. We should just be happy with who we are, rather than trying to be someone else.
43. What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
Being alive is accepting things the way they are. Truly living is chasing your dreams and making sure you do the things you want to.
44. When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
That’s a really tough question for someone who suffers from anxiety. There will never be a time where I don’t think about risk. That’s just not possible. No matter what I do in life, I will always think about what could go wrong. That’s just how my brain works.
45. If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
Because of how it makes us feel at the time. Sure, we learn from them afterwards, but the feeling of making a mistake can be embarrassing or just draining in general.
46. What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
I would release my inner weirdo a bit more. I do very weird things when I’m home alone or with Jeremy. Sometimes I just feel like I need to be less serious, but I don’t feel comfortable being weird around people I don’t feel 100% comfortable with. Sometimes being weird for me just means I have to make some strange noises to get the weird out. Although I know Jeremy doesn’t judge me, he’ll sometimes look at me and go ‘What on earth are you up to?”
47. When was the last time you noticed the sound of your own breathing?
A very long time ago, probably when I was going to sleep. It’s pretty funny actually. Sometimes I’ll notice my breath and then it’ll annoy me and stop me from going to sleep, so I try to breathe quieter, but then I feel out of breath. Did I tell you I’m a bit weird?
48. What do you love? Have any of your recent actions openly expressed this love?
I love being loved, and I try to show my appreciation for the people that show me they love me.
49. In 5 years from now, will you remember what you did yesterday? What about the day before that? Or the day before that?
Unlikely, because I haven’t done much the last couple of days, just the usual work, TV and dinner. Although I might remember going to Leuven to eat a pot of mussels on Sunday. The reason why I think I’ll remember it is because I don’t usually eat mussels, but they were delicious!
50. Decisions are being made right now. The question is: Are you making them for yourself, or are you letting others make them for you?
Both. As much as it’s good to be in control of your own decisions, I appreciate not having to make them from time to time.